@James Burke not the real top 8, they have more important real things to do, but the top 8 according to ted talks for rich kids who don't want to be defined as rich kids.
This podcast should come the following disclaimer. "The information expressed by Mr Galloway describes and is intended for the top 8 percent of young adults on earth.
@Pathetic but harmless agree happiness doesn't wait, you have to go get it, figured it out , sometimes fail a few times before you find it. I have learned I can't judge someone else happiness. What I want may not be what you want. And sometimes you think something will make you happy then it doesn't. You have to be willing to see it as a learning experience so it doesn't bring you down. I dont think he is trying to be a jerk by saying he was in the right place at the right time that happens for some people.
You’re an excellent interviewer, so thumbs up. Contemplated a thumbs down because this guy turned out to be a blankety blank but that’s not your doing . Thanks for the entertainment and information given.
Just wanted to congratulate you on your professionalism. The guest can fully express all their views without interruption, it's fresh and relaxing opposed to mainstream interviews. Great job.
"You feel like you're walking around without a limb" Some of the most accurate words I've heard so far to describe the feeling I've experienced since the day I lost my son last year. Rest easy till we meet again, son. I love you. Johnathan ♾️ 27
I graduated from UCLA with a 3.89 GPA at a time when the acceptance rate was about 10%. I was very motivated, but not in business. I was motivated by academia. Thanks to the corporatization of academia, I barely made enough money to survive. I moved to another country so that I could have a life instead of work for three different universities, and never have enough money or time to live a life. The US is a brutal country.
@FIRST LAST nah man or woman, you have a fair point. I admired your grit in fact. You described men of my generation quite accurately. Not only have we not resisted, we feed into the system as you suggest. Hard to respect us for that. Our need for sex is evident. . We fuk each other over to get the slightest bit of validation from a female. All while rome burns. It's disgusting. I say us instead of them but i can honestly say i dont participate. I hopped out of the matrix a couple months ago. Not on the streets yet lol Check our "renegade" on you tube. Young black guy. He self deleted, sadly, but this cat was spot on
@Boxelder Sorry, I shouldn't have been so blunt in my previous response to you. It's difficult for me to not get worked up while existing in a generation where everything is seemingly rotting on a yearly basis. The only thing we can hold on to for now is the standard of living that's better than most countries but it's just an echo of the culture from a few decades back that is slowly burning out. I mostly blame the older men for not keeping things on the road. They seemingly chose not to endure the suffering that comes from resisting the immediate pleasure that comes from money, sex, avoiding conflict, limitless freedom to 'do what makes me feel good' over responsibility to provide safety and security for a family and community. It's like the men just let it go once the women chose to go to work. They just collectively let go of their place in society with a shoulder shrug. I can't stand thinking about it. Divorces are through the roof with men allowing their kids and money to be stolen. Being convinced that it's okay to murder your boy or girl in the womb because she feels like it. That said, yconceive
@FIRST LASTyou replied to me but you must've removed it. But yeah it's a shame what's happening. There's a saying that nothing good lasts forever. I tried to fight it best I could but was grossly outmatched. Seems like my peers were oblivious to what was going on. and continued on with the american dream. As long as they got yheir dues. I, myself dont see how anyone can enjoy the decline. Glad I never had kids. It's sad as shit. Im not personslly ashsmed. Arent you mad at your parents? kids
I must say you are an inspiration because I started up investing and trading as a scared investor who doesn’t want to lose money, glad to say I’m very profitable now and bought my first house through it
I’m so glad I’m still in a youth program like Boy Scouts. Without it my life wouldn’t be as fun and social as it is now. Bringing young kids together is so important, even if a lot of people (especially people my age) stigmatize it as “nerdy”, “weird”, or “pointless” when it is really so important.
I’m chuffed to see someone your age watching such wisdom on the internet. Keep it up and you’ll be happy to see how bright your future is because of your good habits. Enjoy Boy Scouts!
This was actuality a really great interview. I know ppl have very short attention spans, but there is a need for long-form content like this. This helped me get ready for my own broadcast. I'd love to have a 🍵 with you one day. 😉
This conversation is EPIC! Wow! Great conversation.., lovely exchange of relevant questions and profoundly human responses. Soothing voices, a beautiful use of the English language, and simply brilliant intelligence! Truly masterful.., I’m passing this video on to friends!!! Thank you for such a wonderful gift to humanity! May God continue to bless and prosper the both of you!
Listened to this in 6 different sittings and loved it every time. Thank you for bringing this no bs guy on air. Really felt refreshing after watching other pseudo super succesful guys who appear to have it all figured out.
Loved this episode. Seen it a few times already. Just going to correct Scott on one thing: Schadenfreude is not "Resentment of other people's success." It's joy derived from other people's misfortune. So kind of the opposite.
I know what rejection feels like, but I also know how desperate people are, too. People are just more in your face about. What social media is doing to people is absolutely insane~
The parents of today need to instill hunger to learn, to do good, to do their best in their lives and their children to become better citizens to their countries, better individuals, better human beings towards their family, community and environment.
Scott speaks absolute truth having grown up exactly where he was lucky to go to school then he continued to learn and mature because he knows what women want that we have not found. Partner "is" the number one if you find that person my dad always said "love is no excuse to get married". What do you have in common. I know humans are monkeys need community. I have never "hated upon myself because I never judged myself "! I realized life is luck, genes and who your parents were that I lost early then abused by men who stole what I had worked hard to save males took mine.
coherent, well thought out, but boy, does it go on and on. we can all admire his loquacious capacity, he expresses well, better that most of the audience, no doubt, but he rambles... on...and on... and on, and repeats himself... he certainly slowed time for me.
Other than the other comments I made I think this guy said some really great things. Very in tune with the you generation of today on many ways. Thanks.
As a man, I was taught by every source that expressing interest was a sign of weakness. Applying for a job? It's because you're a loser who isn't positioned to hire. Approaching a girl? It's because you're another desperate loser who can't get girls to approach him. The only people who ask are people who need. And people who need, do not have. And people who do not have are worthless
I decided to be practice abstinence in my 30s. Instead of letting people try to use me as a body count. I feel so much better. I wish I did this much sooner.
what joy listen two respectful rational men, sorry to say, because many times women, constantly interrupts, and interjects with emotional thoughts, Respect to the host and the guest, great job, so much wisdom here
My sons are age 20 and 22 and very economically viable and talented multilingual young men, physically in good shape and decent people. They are happy and have a very good prospect of great careers and have female admirers. However, they tell me that women are extremely choosy about the men they will date and that is entirely down to social media. They have male friends who have never had a relationship with a woman while at university. Young women are not happy. Young men are not happy. Young women have a check list of requirements and are very up front in demanding that men live up to. They don't need men who can earn an average wage - young women can do that for themselves. The young women can get sex when they want but don't need a relationship or marriage to do that. Net result is some men get a lot of sex in uncommitted relationships and women end up failing to have children when they can't find a man who will commit and that also meets their checklist.
When I was 23, both my parents were dead. I have no family. I'd moved around a lot while growing up and ended up settling in a city where I knew no one and found it hard to meet friends. I still live and work in that city and earn ok. Having relationships and being part of a social community is just something I've never really considered normal or a god given right. It's actually a fragile thing and not to be taken for granted and difficult to cultivate from scratch if you haven't had it all done for you.
What you mean no family? How about grandparents 😊, uncles 😊, aunts 😊, cousins 😊 & close friends of a family ? But than again in America we mainly live in nuclear families 👎we don't keep in touch with extended family & that's too bad. 👎
@Birds Eye I’m in a similar position. I work with a great team of people right now but I have been given the opportunity to work from home, this will give me an increase in income. Im trying to make real friendships with these people before I leave so I’m connected to them outside of work. I’m lucky in the fact I’ve made friends everywhere I have been but I’m also a lazy friend and quite often unreliable, this means I’ve lost friends along the way and that is a big regret for me. I’ve been very lonely at times and at one point I started to pull away more, but I think it was just because I was hurting with feelings of rejection and abandonment. I’m making 2023 all about meeting people and connecting! My advice would be start building your work relationships outside of work. I wish you every success!
@Birds Eye FYI, with no family network, I threw myself into my work and gave it-and my colleagues-my all. Then I was “bumped” out (a Union rule whereby someone laid off who has more seniority than you gets your job & you’re the one laid off). All those work relationships dried up completely except for the occasional email or phone call for help. Do not imagine that your work colleagues are a real community for you other than perhaps the rare meeting for coffee or a funeral.
Something which has become very apparent to me in the last couple of years is how much our society has encouraged and conditioned us to strive to live “independently” from our families. Not only is this ideal presented as aspirational, those who don’t manage to achieve this goal are looked down upon. Examples being young people fixated on moving out of the family home, with those who “still” live at home being seen as having failed, and the majority of elder people now living in care or retirement homes instead of with family because they “don’t want to be a burden”. I am absolutely convinced that this trend has caused a large part of the pandemic of loneliness, depression, suicide, cognitive illnesses (such as Alzheimer’s and dementia) as well as many physical conditions that we are now facing. These issues do not seem to be as prevalent in societies where people live in larger more traditional family groups and communities. One thing that a lot of people said to me when I had my son two years ago was “it takes a village to raise a child”. Well, I think this saying can be extended to many of the things that we have to deal with in life but for a lot of us that village does not exist to the degree we need and online communication is not an adequate solution. I feel that the future of our society in many ways will be driven by us reverting back to living, working, shopping and socialising in more local community groups.
I agree and this is all part of western cultures attempt to destroy the nuclear family and the family unit in general. Insistence on expedience and nihilism really epitomises far left ideology. And with that sort of godless ethos comes the worship of oneself and the glorification of ones needs and proclivities, whatever they may be. You cannot separate this belief system from egalitarian doctrine and 'rights' movements such as BLM, LGBT, and 'trans rights', whatever that is. These are all just nonsensical useless manifestations of ideological dogma.
Well said! Don't be deluded by their game corporation doesn't care about individuals they're parasitic entities just interested in money which is a paper spell held up by nothing but BELIEF 💝
Moving away from family is a “white” American ideal. Minorities (especially Hispanic, Asians and Native Americans) don’t consider living with parents or grandparents as being the path of a loser. A lot of the time you are expected to take care of your older relatives, and sometimes that includes them living with (or close by) you as you work.
Here's what grates me about this interview, on both sides, and even though it's brought up as a contributing factor to this whole 'men are f*kcd' thing, it doesn't ever seem properly aired: class, and poverty, and the cultures that surround those things, and the reason most men and women alike do not go on to live somewhat comfortable financially-stable lives. They live in often systematic generational cycles of engrained poverty and its ruthless culture. As someone from that background, who then went to a rich-kid school for awhile, does anyone want to guess out of the few very close friends I still have from my formative education, who are the ones who are financially successful? The upper class, and upper middle class ones. No one else. Not one poor kid I knew and know have a 'rags to riches' story. They all live work-a-day lives, or are criminals, and none seem especially happy. But no one ever seems to want to talk about this bit. The fact that class almost entirely dictates a person's later life. I had this sinking feeling, around the age of say 13/14, that I knew I wasn't going to be able to be as financially stable as I might like because I was not raised to operate in that world. I was never whispered secrets about how to manage money from a rich father, I was never disciplined by a rich mother about how to treat people properly, etc etc. I just had a heroin addict father and a poor struggling single mother who used to give in to manipulations from my addict father. I tried, I really did I love this channel; but I'm also British, and have mingled enough throughout the various social strata that it isn't hard to literally *hear* the upper/ upper-middle class accent of the interviewer, which points strongly to the fact that he grew up in and apart of that culture and its values. And the same with the guy being interviewed, who didn't just straight up say he came from an 'upper-middle class' situation, but openly admitted that him and his mum (sorry 'mom'), could go on holidays (vacation), every year on the single salary of a *secretary*. Add to that the ease of finding positions in universities (as again mentioned) due to things like them being more affordable in those days - and that post-graduate work in a decent position was often a given - and it all just points to one thing. Your family, and their social standing, dictate the quality of your own existence, forever, until the day you die.
You are playing the role of a victim. It's your identity that you've been carrying around for your whole life. You clearly explained who you are (the disadvantaged one) and who others are (the so called lucky ones). If you want a different life you must reimagine your identity, including how you look at life and how you FEEL about life. The lucky ones were taught a different way of thinking, and you can teach yourself the same. You said you tried, but the truth is that you gave up because it was too hard or because it took longer than you liked. The key thing that "upper class" people have that you don't is a mindset of success, and that can be learned. A success mindset really just means that you believe that "I can do it," whatever it is that you decide to do. I grew up in a poor family with parents that worked basic jobs and never made much money. I was never encouraged to go to college or do anything significant with my life or to save/invest money or to change or grow into the man I have become, but I knew I wasn't willing to settle for less than an awesome life. I struggled for years to break out and yeah it was tough and painful but I never stopped growing and working on myself because I knew I couldn't accept less than what I wanted. I have owned my own business now for 10 years and I'm also working on a tech startup that I'm passionate about. I believe in you ARAH. You can do it.
This is exactly true. In America young men do not express interest, even if they are very much interested. Abroad, men express interest all the time and the interaction is free and easy. Nobody cares about rejection, but about the chance. We take chances all the time even when we are married - because it keeps you alive it charges you. In US however people have some sort of pride and they are stuck in some internal metaverse of customs that is strictly American. A-social behavior is celebrated in US. Sarcasm is seen as sophisticated sense of humor, rather than sign of being a depressed loser.
It's interesting: he talks a lot of sense and his argument are quite intelligent, but then he suddenly goes full regard on government propaganda about climate change and conspiracies. People clearly can be smart and stupid at the same time, depending on the topic.
Quiet quitting is because companies are mismanaging us and are actually breaking down our internal motivation. I didn't quiet quit, I was just driven to my limit and I struggled to squeeze out the minimum from myself by the end (we had layoffs this spring because they moved most of our jobs to the Philippines). They insisted on stats, even if the stats lied because people were cheating but the figures couldn't reflect that, and on motivating us with bonuses when I am just not motivated by more money, I wouldn't even log my overtime even in times when they would pay it (my team was salaried). I was motivated by making a difference and being thorough but I kept being told, effectively, to just be faster instead. Now I have a lot of trouble task switching, so becoming faster at the work we were doing wasn't an option for me. Anyhoo, I learned a lot, I'm grateful for that, worked on an amazing team with fantastic people, but I'm also glad it's over because the life has been squeezed out of me to the point I'm still recovering
Hello from France Agnes ( a french name actually..,) try to find the true story written by Dan Johnston . In french it s called " more precious than money...or silver... ( Same word in french ) it might encourage you ) ✌️🌷
No. Companies are employing consultants in a race to the bottom. They force customers to jump hoops. I file small claims cases for each time-wasting maneuver, especially overseas call centres with staff who cannot escalate nor understand ' Your inability to escalate this means I will file a legal case in my local jurisdiction'. Thank you for being clear you cannot resolve this.
Same for me. I was happy to get laid off because the work/life balance was awful. I worked 60-75 hr weeks due to attrition and I did the work of 3 people daily. I became my own boss so I won’t have to answer to bad management and corporate bureaucracies.
I totally feel this. I’m normally super motivated and enthusiastic at and about my work, but I feel I haven’t had a good manager in years. It’s very demotivating. Helping clients is what keeps me going but I feel very despondent about other things at work.
I haven’t even reached the end of this conversation and I’m already eager to invite a few friends to watch it with me. I feel like Steven is the teacher of my wakeup club
Yes please more male energy...testosterone please...girls have girl friends for girly things....we need men to be real men and stand up for what is right and speak up and hold their ground for what is right
I can totally get he still thinks negatively of himself. Growing up without a dad present. Losing your mother early. The love we recieve from parents and family throughout our youth is something we carry with is our whole life. It sounds like he has had a lonely, hard life and he just made the most of it. I can relate!
Yes Francis, I think the same. I'm enjoying the conversation but I have to keep pausing because his vibe is weighty and sad, and that makes me want to click away, but curiosity keeps me pausing to read a few comments, back to listen to some more (whilst trying not to glance at the screen: his kyphosis makes me sad).
I’m so happy and glad that I’ve found this channel. The information, wisdom and knowledge from experts here are priceless. You guys are doing an amazing job with these interviews. Keep up the great work!
"There is nothing wrong with asking someone for a coffee. It is not a problem to show interest." So simple but still so powerful. For most, this first step may be the hardest, the fear of rejection is real. Awesome episode.
@Lidia Rona It may not necessarily be "about them" but it's just not there. When I think of the men who have shown interest in me -as much as I wanted to be interested in them romantically-but the feelings weren't there/didn't develop, I know it's not an intentional rejection. It's not something one controls. The only thing you can control is giving it a fair chance. After that, it is what it is. That's what I think about when I've been rejected romantically. It seems to take the edge off.
I get rejected 99% rate. I got only one date in 5 years by approach women in coffee shop, mall, work etc. I am almost 30, and finding women shouldn’t be my main focus. It’s side quest. Making money, following my dreams, improving mental, physical, and spiritual/religious state are more important.
Some men need to understand and this is the Older ones...If you invite me for Coffee and I do not know you even if you live in the same building as me...have the Good Manners to Open Your Wallet...and Buy me one in a Cafe...I am NOT coming into your Apartment ! Understand ?
@Jennie Russell Fragile? Peoples' jobs, schooling, and LIVES have been derailed and their reputations have been irreparably damaged because of having asked out the wrong person. They run to H.R. or to the school official and it's game over for the individual who "asked someone out for coffee" or the equivalent. Obviously this is an extreme scenario and hyperbolic, but it's actually happening. It's not unheard of now. Go look into it.
@William Nunn I agree on your view of life . the whole point of evolution is for us to « evolve». Darwinism is not a trip to McDonald’s 😂. The people who can’t cope with life « as it is», simply become depressed, insane and so on. Falling deeper and deeper into narcissism and fantasy. The fantasy of the world oweing them something. When the hard facts is that evolution simply don’t care
We need to factor into the equation if someone is a natural introvert, extrovert or ambivert. I consider myself to be an ambivert (combo of both introvert and extrovert). I find solace and peace staying away from the majority of people. I tend to feel drained by the emotions and mental illnesses that are out there, including in the work setting. I have felt more loneliness trying to fit into a superficial party atmosphere, than being at home watching a though-provoking documentary, fascinating book or working on a creative pursuit or hobby. It's not that I don't appreciate people, but it depends on who those people are and the energy that they bring. Are they stubborn, defensive or angry? Are they extremely boring personalities? I tend to enjoy the company of those who think outside-the-box, have common sense, a great sense of humor and are humble enough to learn new information without allowing cognitive dissonance to interfere. Being a great listener has almost become a rare quality, so I encourage people to learn that skill. Don't just hear the words, actually listen and try to understand where another person is coming from. I think getting outside of our heads and considering others is important too. There is a fine line in relationships because one person might deem you as aloof, while another might consider that person to be introspective and yet another might think that person is rude. That can be draining and not always enjoyable to be around. We can't please everyone, but I think just being comfortable within yourself and being your own best friend is a way to show love and respect to yourself. With that, you can love and respect others more easily, which will help cultivate relationships and hopefully they can flourish with both staying in the same boat together and knowing that despite the boat having different locations upon it, you are still floating along together. I am particular with the company I keep and try to have strong boundaries with those who are toxic. When you start to weed out those who are not true friends, you will put more energy and value in those who really are.
'Grit' is somewhat less important than the conditions. As Scott acknowledges right at the start he 'hit the lottery', because he appeared in a time when normal social spending towards the public purpose delivered schooling and a level of security many people don't even know now. People do need to be productive, but it isn't some solution to a economies run on bad policy (Monetarism for us for the last 40-odd years). It's a matter of most people just not being able to achieve any level of success or security, no matter how you measure that. Can't rely on the individual for this, we know that. It's been the ideology since the late 70s, it doesn't work.
WOW I really resonate with your story Prof G. I'm 44 and made it and lost it twice. Going for round 3 in my 'happier' years. I also lost my dad at 33 and my mom at 41.Thank you for this talk.
I think old people are the happiest age cohort, despite waning health, because their job life is finally over, and all that terrible stress that drives us younger ones in the workforce absolutety nuts every day, is gone. The low stress level lets them find joy in the mundane.
very inspirational, and I love Scott’s views on his experiences and the importance of community and being who you are based on the lessons that you learn. And I give kudos to the CEO of this podcast.
@hiteck007 I've never heard of him before today and know nothing of what he did to anyone. I don't need to know. There are enough meanies I can find on my own.
@Brian Frederick he admitted he was a Vicious piece of work as a boss to his people working for him & I can see it in his face he still has the mean streak even though he regrets his behavior. He still has a lot of self work to do I think.
"If you're watching a lot of advertising, it means your life hasn't worked out... Advertising is a tax on the poor and the technologically illiterate." Ad starts in 5, 4... 😅 Love this episode 👍
I don’t see ads. But I pay to not see them - I felt it was worth my sanity to not be exposed to BS advertising designed to make me feel bad about myself and spend money on products I can do without.
However you feel about it, it's better to have than lack. How can you think being economically viable is a bad idea? We all have to contributed somehow
I think the dillusion of people who go to college and don't have a plan very early on in either law, medical or science based careers are destined to struggle because the boomers really had options. Now nobody has those same options. Trades and technical schools are not talked about enough. Most people aren't willing to do the hard work.
What really irks me about these conversations about 'lonely' men is that forgiveness and acceptance of them are treated as foregone conclusions. A lot of damage has been done. A lot. People have been unalived (rolls eyes at not being able to say things plainly) by these men. People have been threatened by these men. Yet based on lectures by Peterson, Galloway, whoever (same message just packaged differently), we're all supposed to move on and just accept these men's rage as a rite of passage. Such BS. Women with sense should steer clear and 'feminist' Galloway should understand why.
I live in the South, and I see a lot of rage, but none of it against the usual straw men of the Left. It's against the Leftists themselves, and is shared by whites, blacks, Latinos, anyone who understands history and works a real job for a living. My church, started by a Mississippi sharecropper's son - yes, such things exist - is in the last town in the South to eliminate segregation, yet slightly more than half the congregation is black, as the new pastor. We, unlike the Left, can learn, and have. You'd think that the 125 million corpses left in their wake would be enough to teach them. Slow learners, I guess....
The best way to think about rejection that helped me is… if you and a girl don’t get along, it’s just a misalignment of beliefs and values, not necessarily rejection. Just put yourself out there and if you’re worth something and feel good about yourself, someone will not reject you. At a certain point it’s a numbers game.
@Di :3 That is true. Acceptance is the beginning of wisdom. But when one has surrendered to the notion that we don't control everything, it makes space for things to come to us that were blocked previously by our energy. So, nothing is impossible.
I lived in the US for a few years and dam right life’s great with money there but there’s no real net to catch you if you sick or lose you job enjoyed being there but prefer how we do things here even though it’s far from perfect
Maybe it's where I am mentally but, to me, this interview was so on point, informative, inspirational, and so many other positive words. Thanks for sharing!
The segment about the most important decision you'll ever make is 100% spot on. Your choice of partner is more important than your choice of school or career.
@Snake Griffin You actually called her husband a plow donkey? Do you have any inkling of what it takes to be home raising 9 children? Are you insane? The husband was probably glad to go to work and get some peace and quiet.
@Bogus Mogus I guess it's all in how you look at it. If you think being alone sucks, then I guess for someone to be alone with you it must really suck.
Great Podcast, you got my follow! Scott Golloway talking makes me feel sane. I’m a father of a one year old and three year old, I have actively incorporated some of his wisdom of being present and engaged into parenting and being a husband. Everyone in the house is happier for it!
I stumbled across this podcast via some hip hop channel that led me to Dame Dash episode. Since then, I have spent EVERY free minute I have watching episode after episode. And this one IS TOP NOTCH! The breadth of his knowledge and his ability to articulate his thought is Astounding!! And GREAT questions posed to him! What a stellar podcast and excellent excellent episode! Thank you!!
I had never heard of this guy or you, either. I stumbled upon this based on other videos I had taken an interest in. This is pure gold. Meant to be watched over and over again.
I can't trace back how I found this conversation but it was so good, I'm relistening to it. As a 32 year old guy, this was all really fascinating and helpful to hear. Great stuff!!
A very insightful conversation. Thanks, Prof G! Speaking as someone in his late 50s in the midst of a career that has helped sustain me for the past 31 years, a lot of what Prof G says resonated very strongly with me. I think that one from the time that he/she is a preteen (between 10 and 12), should have some solid ideas as to what one wants to do with one's life. For instance, when I was 12, I wanted to be an aeronautical engineer because of my deep love and interest in aviation. But I had a reckoning with reality a couple of years later during a 'Career Day' in junior high school. A gentleman had brought with him what looked like a small, adding machine, asking each of us students what professions each of us was interested in taking up as a career. I told him of my desire to be an aeronautical engineer. He fed in my info to the machine and reams of paper shot out. WHOOSH!!! When I saw the amount of science and math courses on those sheets that I would need to be an aeronautical engineer, I felt overwhelmed. While I was good in science, math was a subject with which I had always struggled. I developed second thoughts and abandoned the desire to pursue aeronautical engineering. It would be another couple of years before I --- after some soul searching -- decided to pursue a career in Economics. By that time, with some tutorial help, I had gained a better feel for mathematics and went on to earn straight As in the subject during my last 3 years of high school. I later earned an Economics degree, studied in grad school (on a fellowship) for a year and then applied for the Peace Corps. I had always had a desire to travel overseas and help those who may not have had the opportunities (and luck) that I had. Thankfully, I got accepted into the Peace Corps and worked overseas as a teacher for 2 years. And I never looked back. As I said, it helps to develop some sort of blueprint as to what you want to do with your life - both professional and personal. Learn also to take pleasure in everyday life. For instance, the sky and clouds, the rustling of autumn leaves as you walk in your neighborhood, the feel of the wind on your face as you go about your day-to-day stuff. Savor those friendships that sustain you. Don't take any of them for granted - EVER. Pursue your hobbies. If you're interested in studying a foreign language, writing a novel, taking a cooking course, and/or doing yoga, DO IT. Plus, be able to laugh at yourself. I cannot emphasize that enough! I say these things from experience. Sure, there are moments when I get depressed. When that happens, I ride it out and when it has passed, I get myself together and resolve to keep moving forward. Having an optimistic outlook is the key. Remember: YOU HAVE A PURPOSE IN LIFE. YOU ARE UNIQUE. Each of us are here as a result of random chance. Always remember that. Strive to be positive, constructive, and the best you you are capable of becoming, among family, friends, and people in general. While doing so, you'll draw to yourself people --- men and women -- who will enrich your life in ways you can scarcely imagine.
It is so weird seeming to be one of the few males under 30, married for 5 years, with a kid and not dying financially. I moved to where I needed to, to make enough money for my family. It may be a frozen hell, but I can provide for my family. I think if I hadn’t met my wife in Highschool and married in my early 20s I could have been one of those disaffected young men, I almost did anyway. But having responsibilities and stepping up to the task is what saved me from myself. Welcome to my Tedx talk 😅
@tailgunner2 Then you’re making the right decision. If your work requires you to be there late all the time that isn’t fair to a family. Your wife and kids need you to be around.
@Lawnmower Man Bullshit. That's only in the U.S. because this country has programmed men to think that way. Marriage, kids, 9-5 job, picket fence, keeping up with the Joneses, etc. No thank you. I don't want to be cookie cutter like everyone else. I'd rather be single and free and climbing a mountain in New Zealand or someplace. Seriously. The American way of life sucks. That's why so many people in America are miserable and on Prozac.
In my 30s, married for almost 10 years, have 2 children and am extremely happy. Even if I wasn’t financially stable, I’d still be happy. Because being married to a good woman and raising a family is literally the only thing worth doing. Everything else is really superficial in comparison.
I'm from the Midwest but living in FL right now, my bf and I are thinking about moving up north since his job is remote and cost of living is lower. I also work right now and have an advanced degree, but would happily move to part time work or stay at home to manage the home if we have kids, as long as our situation allows it. He had low confidence in himself before, but I showed him a site that calculates how common men are by age, height (not that I care but a lot of women do), and income, (and a box you can check for "not obese") and he's in the top 4% of men nationally. He had no idea he was this valuable already, and his career is really just starting. I think a lot of women have unrealistic expectations of men these days.
Such an insightful interview and I deeply appreciate you introducing me to this gentleman's books. His professional knowledge and jewels of no nonsense wisdom should be taught everywhere
I was born with gene gave me poor health. If I had what my brother had I could have done great things. At least I learned the gene was bad thus didn't procreate. Exercise is required !
Guy is smart and has a lot of good points, but he falls on his face when he starts talking about politics generalizing “conservatives” and mischaracterizing people like Andrew tate and centrist/right leaning “uneducated” “masculine” men. He immediately devolved into the “progressive” platitudes. Mildly disappointing
Thanks for introducing me to Scott Galloway! Very honest discussion & thoughtful perceptiveness about life. Wish we had a lot more of this type of conversation, deep thought and precious humility going on in society, as a cultural norm not a rarity. We’d truly make strides and positive change a reality. The school of life should be an open discussion. It’s what it’s all about.
This podcast was so interesting. I’m 45 and recently really struggled with the recognition that financially I am not where I expected to be following a divorce. To hear someone else express that as such a difficult time made me feel a sense of calm and patience
Me too, but as my lawyer said - what price happiness? I am so much happier now, despite having had to pay a large amount to my ex husband and financially supporting our child on my own.
@Jason MP Yes, I think it actually does. You don’t to impress anyone or prove anything. Just do the best you can and trust that the pieces will come together. I think they will.
It's nice to listen to someone on the left I can actually relate too. It's so hard to penetrate the echo chamber social media builds around us. I'm not about to swing left after listening to this guest, but if I ran into more voices on the left like this guy I'd probably be a lot more likely to. Thanks for the thoughtful interview.
A fantastic guest and a great interview. I find him to be deeply insightful, very articulate and to the point, and wide in his ability to capture the many facets of modern life. Thank you!
I really enjoyed this. I grew up poor (no electricity or plumbing poor). I’ve built a small empire. My success, I believe, was 90% grit. It has been challenging for me to pass on my humble values to my children, but overall, I am very pleased with their integrity, genuine love for others, and their work ethic. Most of all, I am grateful they believe in Jesus.
I always find it interesting how often people with money talk about Christianity. I’m pretty convinced it’s a cult and you sell your soul to gain money. God=money to Christians in America, I think.
@Beryl Comar not quite. You watch to see if their actions match their words. Not sure how you've managed to navigate life without considering this. The words are always only words without an accompanying action.
@Paul Bogle so, when someone says “I love you” reply “Thankyou, that’s lovely. What is it that you love about me?” If they can’t answer that, specifically, then it’s just words.
@Beryl Comar words as in claims. Like someone saying 'I love you' Clearly words themselves mean things or comment sections would not be worth anyone's time. Nor would much for that matter
He didn't laugh out loud for 14 years. That's wild. Really makes me appreciate my own life. It's hard for me to think of a day in the past 10 years I haven't laughed out loud.
I'm 34 and it's in this year I've taken so many small moments in, reading a book with my kids, looking out my window in to the street at whatever is there, cooking dinner for my family and watching them enjoy it. It's not alway easy to stop and find gratitude in 'just being' but if you manage to do it where you can it really does wonders for your wellbeing.
Your comment resonates so much. I'm a similar age without a wife or kids; I took the ever fashionable themes of society very seriously growing up, as if they were inarguable templates for aspiration. It was a loss of focus, a twenty years-long fever dream. I'm grateful to have refound a connection to being through actively listening to others and participating as a constituent part of society as opposed to the sine qua non (not sure if that's the correct application of the term; I mean to say: believing that I am the only person affected by the world, the only person that matters in this life). I hope the distraction-mongers in society come round to a similar realisation, that our main purpose for being here is to help others. Thanks again for the comment.
@Kili Marshal Kili - you got to first know your requirements. A lot of guys (not saying you) in West bought the hype and are just floating around trying to not make commitments. There are good quality gals everywhere, no they're not chasing top 5% because they themselves are not too 5%. But they are good quality women who can help you build a stable home from which to focus energies on work. Its just how do you communicate that you value that.
I am 32 i still have no long term partner. Young men are not being sexist they just frustrated that women have advantage. I should have long term female by now they have too much choice easier for them find partner. Lets add feminist wanting to empower not equality with these new feminist say horrible things about males . we can't even play guns at age 5
Thanks for the subject sections!!! And by the way I’ve been saying this for years as I am raised with old norms and values bit really struggle with the new generation in the current society. With friends it’s not a big problem, but with finding a partner (a bit younger) Norman’s and values are way different. Speaking to every day people is way harder, younger people are way more into instant or short term satisfaction (dopamine addiction like sex, money, status, gaming, tiktok, insta, attention) and not working on long term satisfaction (working hard with expecting instant more money, being happy with nothing, a good and long conversation and actually listening). All these youtubers, tiktokkers, instagirls are mostly (not all e.g. informative, educational accounts) a no go for me. The fact that they do it that intensity says something about them (attention, acceptance, confirmation etc). They all talk about multiple streams of income but most of they youngsters do this my mean of crypto, social media or pyramid like constructions, which are either hypes or semi scams (they are dangerous when not knowing the risks). The feedback that I get from many managers in different organizations about youngsters is that they expect loads of money and have so little experience and actually business knowledge they often get rejected or aren’t of the same value and therefore get paid less. The fact that the trend of elder vs younger people is growing too doenst predict something good for the future
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@James Burke not the real top 8, they have more important real things to do, but the top 8 according to ted talks for rich kids who don't want to be defined as rich kids.
This podcast should come the following disclaimer. "The information expressed by Mr Galloway describes and is intended for the top 8 percent of young adults on earth.
@Pathetic but harmless agree happiness doesn't wait, you have to go get it, figured it out , sometimes fail a few times before you find it. I have learned I can't judge someone else happiness. What I want may not be what you want. And sometimes you think something will make you happy then it doesn't. You have to be willing to see it as a learning experience so it doesn't bring you down. I dont think he is trying to be a jerk by saying he was in the right place at the right time that happens for some people.
@snacker0711 yep. the world sucks. try not to let the blanks get ya down. Here they come in storms.
You’re an excellent interviewer, so thumbs up. Contemplated a thumbs down because this guy turned out to be a blankety blank but that’s not your doing .
Thanks for the entertainment and information given.
Just wanted to congratulate you on your professionalism. The guest can fully express all their views without interruption,
it's fresh and relaxing opposed to mainstream interviews. Great job.
"You feel like you're walking around without a limb"
Some of the most accurate words I've heard so far to describe the feeling I've experienced since the day I lost my son last year.
Rest easy till we meet again, son. I love you.
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Sorry for your loss. Thank you for being brave to share.
sorry about losing your son. God grant you whatever you desire
I graduated from UCLA with a 3.89 GPA at a time when the acceptance rate was about 10%. I was very motivated, but not in business. I was motivated by academia. Thanks to the corporatization of academia, I barely made enough money to survive. I moved to another country so that I could have a life instead of work for three different universities, and never have enough money or time to live a life. The US is a brutal country.
@FIRST LAST nah man or woman, you have a fair point. I admired your grit in fact.
You described men of my generation quite accurately. Not only have we not resisted, we feed into the system as you suggest. Hard to respect us for that. Our need for sex is evident. . We fuk each other over to get the slightest bit of validation from a female. All while rome burns. It's disgusting.
I say us instead of them but i can honestly say i dont participate. I hopped out of the matrix a couple months ago. Not on the streets yet lol
Check our "renegade" on you tube. Young black guy. He self deleted, sadly, but this cat was spot on
@Boxelder Sorry, I shouldn't have been so blunt in my previous response to you. It's difficult for me to not get worked up while existing in a generation where everything is seemingly rotting on a yearly basis. The only thing we can hold on to for now is the standard of living that's better than most countries but it's just an echo of the culture from a few decades back that is slowly burning out. I mostly blame the older men for not keeping things on the road. They seemingly chose not to endure the suffering that comes from resisting the immediate pleasure that comes from money, sex, avoiding conflict, limitless freedom to 'do what makes me feel good' over responsibility to provide safety and security for a family and community. It's like the men just let it go once the women chose to go to work. They just collectively let go of their place in society with a shoulder shrug. I can't stand thinking about it. Divorces are through the roof with men allowing their kids and money to be stolen. Being convinced that it's okay to murder your boy or girl in the womb because she feels like it. That said, yconceive
@FIRST LAST I can't find this thread. Just a sec
@FIRST LASTyou replied to me but you must've removed it. But yeah it's a shame what's happening. There's a saying that nothing good lasts forever.
I tried to fight it best I could but was grossly outmatched. Seems like my peers were oblivious to what was going on. and continued on with the american dream. As long as they got yheir dues. I, myself dont see how anyone can enjoy the decline. Glad I never had kids. It's sad as shit. Im not personslly ashsmed. Arent you mad at your parents?
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@Boxelder Why didn't you men push back. You failed our generation. You should be ashamed.
I must say you are an inspiration because I started up investing and trading as a scared investor who doesn’t want to lose money, glad to say I’m very profitable now and bought my first house through it
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I’m so glad I’m still in a youth program like Boy Scouts. Without it my life wouldn’t be as fun and social as it is now. Bringing young kids together is so important, even if a lot of people (especially people my age) stigmatize it as “nerdy”, “weird”, or “pointless” when it is really so important.
I’m chuffed to see someone your age watching such wisdom on the internet. Keep it up and you’ll be happy to see how bright your future is because of your good habits.
Enjoy Boy Scouts!
I agree with you. I have lifelibg friends from Youth Sports/programs.
The only thing that sucks about this episode is that it's not 5 hours long. Really enjoyed this!
A breath of fresh air. Loved the episode, everyone in all ages should hear this 💯
This was actuality a really great interview. I know ppl have very short attention spans, but there is a need for long-form content like this. This helped me get ready for my own broadcast.
I'd love to have a 🍵 with you one day.
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This conversation is EPIC! Wow! Great conversation.., lovely exchange of relevant questions and profoundly human responses. Soothing voices, a beautiful use of the English language, and simply brilliant intelligence! Truly masterful.., I’m passing this video on to friends!!! Thank you for such a wonderful gift to humanity! May God continue to bless and prosper the both of you!
Listened to this in 6 different sittings and loved it every time. Thank you for bringing this no bs guy on air. Really felt refreshing after watching other pseudo super succesful guys who appear to have it all figured out.
Agreed....He's real, no BS , down to earth....
As a 54 year old entrepreneur, everything Scott said resonated with me and I’ve found to be true. I agree with him 100%
Loved this episode. Seen it a few times already.
Just going to correct Scott on one thing:
Schadenfreude is not "Resentment of other people's success." It's joy derived from other people's misfortune. So kind of the opposite.
i love so much of what he said. I could not disagree more, however, on kids being entitled. I continually deal with entitled kids, and adults.
I know what rejection feels like, but I also know how desperate people are, too. People are just more in your face about. What social media is doing to people is absolutely insane~
You have some of the BEST intro's on KZclip. Wow! Who is editing these masterpieces??
Kudos to the whole team producing these 👏👏
Incredible, perspective changing interview!
I am from India, but lived in the US for about 7 years. And I feel like this is my story in many ways... Amazing pieces of advice Golden words..
Thank you for covering these important topics in a serious manner! 👍
Another fantastic podcast Steve well done!!
This is truly a masterful interview and conversation.
I needed this today… Thank you both 🙏
I really like and appreciate this Professor G!
The parents of today need to instill hunger to learn, to do good, to do their best in their lives and their children to become better citizens to their countries, better individuals, better human beings towards their family, community and environment.
Scott speaks absolute truth having grown up exactly where he was lucky to go to school then he continued to learn and mature because he knows what women want that we have not found. Partner "is" the number one if you find that person my dad always said "love is no excuse to get married". What do you have in common. I know humans are monkeys need community. I have never "hated upon myself because I never judged myself "! I realized life is luck, genes and who your parents were that I lost early then abused by men who stole what I had worked hard to save males took mine.
coherent, well thought out, but boy, does it go on and on. we can all admire his loquacious capacity, he expresses well, better that most of the audience, no doubt, but he rambles... on...and on... and on, and repeats himself... he certainly slowed time for me.
Incredible messages!!!! Thank you! 😊 ❤️
Other than the other comments I made I think this guy said some really great things. Very in tune with the you generation of today on many ways. Thanks.
As a man, I was taught by every source that expressing interest was a sign of weakness.
Applying for a job? It's because you're a loser who isn't positioned to hire.
Approaching a girl? It's because you're another desperate loser who can't get girls to approach him.
The only people who ask are people who need.
And people who need, do not have.
And people who do not have are worthless
I decided to be practice abstinence in my 30s. Instead of letting people try to use me as a body count. I feel so much better. I wish I did this much sooner.
@Alaska 907 Be neither. Have some self control and self respect.
Plot twist: Be the counter, not the counted.
HBO is amazing at innovation and newness. 🥰
what joy listen two respectful rational men, sorry to say, because many times women, constantly interrupts, and interjects with emotional thoughts,
Respect to the host and the guest, great job, so much wisdom here
Great intelligent and thoughtful discussion but when Scott says "big dick energy' I almost choked on my drink. Well done gents.
Scott Gallow has got a Jordan Peterson vibe. I like what he says, it’s a breath of fresh air in this sea of craziness.
My sons are age 20 and 22 and very economically viable and talented multilingual young men, physically in good shape and decent people. They are happy and have a very good prospect of great careers and have female admirers.
However, they tell me that women are extremely choosy about the men they will date and that is entirely down to social media. They have male friends who have never had a relationship with a woman while at university. Young women are not happy. Young men are not happy.
Young women have a check list of requirements and are very up front in demanding that men live up to. They don't need men who can earn an average wage - young women can do that for themselves. The young women can get sex when they want but don't need a relationship or marriage to do that. Net result is some men get a lot of sex in uncommitted relationships and women end up failing to have children when they can't find a man who will commit and that also meets their checklist.
When I was 23, both my parents were dead. I have no family. I'd moved around a lot while growing up and ended up settling in a city where I knew no one and found it hard to meet friends.
I still live and work in that city and earn ok. Having relationships and being part of a social community is just something I've never really considered normal or a god given right. It's actually a fragile thing and not to be taken for granted and difficult to cultivate from scratch if you haven't had it all done for you.
What you mean no family?
How about grandparents 😊,
uncles 😊, aunts 😊, cousins 😊
& close friends of a family ?
But than again in America we mainly
live in nuclear families 👎we don't
keep in touch with extended family
& that's too bad. 👎
@Birds Eye I’m in a similar position. I work with a great team of people right now but I have been given the opportunity to work from home, this will give me an increase in income. Im trying to make real friendships with these people before I leave so I’m connected to them outside of work. I’m lucky in the fact I’ve made friends everywhere I have been but I’m also a lazy friend and quite often unreliable, this means I’ve lost friends along the way and that is a big regret for me. I’ve been very lonely at times and at one point I started to pull away more, but I think it was just because I was hurting with feelings of rejection and abandonment. I’m making 2023 all about meeting people and connecting! My advice would be start building your work relationships outside of work. I wish you every success!
@Birds Eye maybe those people you work with are into music thing your into...even one would be great
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@Birds Eye FYI, with no family network, I threw myself into my work and gave it-and my colleagues-my all. Then I was “bumped” out (a Union rule whereby someone laid off who has more seniority than you gets your job & you’re the one laid off). All those work relationships dried up completely except for the occasional email or phone call for help. Do not imagine that your work colleagues are a real community for you other than perhaps the rare meeting for coffee or a funeral.
This was an Enlightening conversation
3:38. " Somebody who was irrationally passionate about my well-being."
So that hit home. 🎯
Something which has become very apparent to me in the last couple of years is how much our society has encouraged and conditioned us to strive to live “independently” from our families.
Not only is this ideal presented as aspirational, those who don’t manage to achieve this goal are looked down upon.
Examples being young people fixated on moving out of the family home, with those who “still” live at home being seen as having failed, and the majority of elder people now living in care or retirement homes instead of with family because they “don’t want to be a burden”.
I am absolutely convinced that this trend has caused a large part of the pandemic of loneliness, depression, suicide, cognitive illnesses (such as Alzheimer’s and dementia) as well as many physical conditions that we are now facing.
These issues do not seem to be as prevalent in societies where people live in larger more traditional family groups and communities.
One thing that a lot of people said to me when I had my son two years ago was “it takes a village to raise a child”. Well, I think this saying can be extended to many of the things that we have to deal with in life but for a lot of us that village does not exist to the degree we need and online communication is not an adequate solution.
I feel that the future of our society in many ways will be driven by us reverting back to living, working, shopping and socialising in more local community groups.
Well said. A family divided has to spend much more money!
I agree and this is all part of western cultures attempt to destroy the nuclear family and the family unit in general. Insistence on expedience and nihilism really epitomises far left ideology. And with that sort of godless ethos comes the worship of oneself and the glorification of ones needs and proclivities, whatever they may be. You cannot separate this belief system from egalitarian doctrine and 'rights' movements such as BLM, LGBT, and 'trans rights', whatever that is. These are all just nonsensical useless manifestations of ideological dogma.
@Juncakarina move out of the basement clown
Well said! Don't be deluded by their game corporation doesn't care about individuals they're parasitic entities just interested in money which is a paper spell held up by nothing but BELIEF 💝
Moving away from family is a “white” American ideal. Minorities (especially Hispanic, Asians and Native Americans) don’t consider living with parents or grandparents as being the path of a loser. A lot of the time you are expected to take care of your older relatives, and sometimes that includes them living with (or close by) you as you work.
If there were dudes like this guy in the dating pool, I would level up my ass in a heartbeat😬
Here's what grates me about this interview, on both sides, and even though it's brought up as a contributing factor to this whole 'men are f*kcd' thing, it doesn't ever seem properly aired: class, and poverty, and the cultures that surround those things, and the reason most men and women alike do not go on to live somewhat comfortable financially-stable lives. They live in often systematic generational cycles of engrained poverty and its ruthless culture.
As someone from that background, who then went to a rich-kid school for awhile, does anyone want to guess out of the few very close friends I still have from my formative education, who are the ones who are financially successful? The upper class, and upper middle class ones. No one else. Not one poor kid I knew and know have a 'rags to riches' story. They all live work-a-day lives, or are criminals, and none seem especially happy. But no one ever seems to want to talk about this bit. The fact that class almost entirely dictates a person's later life. I had this sinking feeling, around the age of say 13/14, that I knew I wasn't going to be able to be as financially stable as I might like because I was not raised to operate in that world. I was never whispered secrets about how to manage money from a rich father, I was never disciplined by a rich mother about how to treat people properly, etc etc. I just had a heroin addict father and a poor struggling single mother who used to give in to manipulations from my addict father.
I tried, I really did
I love this channel; but I'm also British, and have mingled enough throughout the various social strata that it isn't hard to literally *hear* the upper/ upper-middle class accent of the interviewer, which points strongly to the fact that he grew up in and apart of that culture and its values. And the same with the guy being interviewed, who didn't just straight up say he came from an 'upper-middle class' situation, but openly admitted that him and his mum (sorry 'mom'), could go on holidays (vacation), every year on the single salary of a *secretary*. Add to that the ease of finding positions in universities (as again mentioned) due to things like them being more affordable in those days - and that post-graduate work in a decent position was often a given - and it all just points to one thing.
Your family, and their social standing, dictate the quality of your own existence, forever, until the day you die.
You are playing the role of a victim. It's your identity that you've been carrying around for your whole life. You clearly explained who you are (the disadvantaged one) and who others are (the so called lucky ones). If you want a different life you must reimagine your identity, including how you look at life and how you FEEL about life.
The lucky ones were taught a different way of thinking, and you can teach yourself the same. You said you tried, but the truth is that you gave up because it was too hard or because it took longer than you liked. The key thing that "upper class" people have that you don't is a mindset of success, and that can be learned. A success mindset really just means that you believe that "I can do it," whatever it is that you decide to do.
I grew up in a poor family with parents that worked basic jobs and never made much money. I was never encouraged to go to college or do anything significant with my life or to save/invest money or to change or grow into the man I have become, but I knew I wasn't willing to settle for less than an awesome life. I struggled for years to break out and yeah it was tough and painful but I never stopped growing and working on myself because I knew I couldn't accept less than what I wanted. I have owned my own business now for 10 years and I'm also working on a tech startup that I'm passionate about.
I believe in you ARAH. You can do it.
This is exactly true. In America young men do not express interest, even if they are very much interested. Abroad, men express interest all the time and the interaction is free and easy. Nobody cares about rejection, but about the chance. We take chances all the time even when we are married - because it keeps you alive it charges you. In US however people have some sort of pride and they are stuck in some internal metaverse of customs that is strictly American. A-social behavior is celebrated in US. Sarcasm is seen as sophisticated sense of humor, rather than sign of being a depressed loser.
As 23 year old who’s not doing all that great, this man makes me feel seen.
I'd start by ditching the anime, lad.
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Very seen. My soul twitched in a good way like "omg, I feel it"
@Gerardo why not?
I see you, friend. We'll get through this together.
It's interesting: he talks a lot of sense and his argument are quite intelligent, but then he suddenly goes full regard on government propaganda about climate change and conspiracies. People clearly can be smart and stupid at the same time, depending on the topic.
I found the "New Warrior" experience from the Mankind Project helpful for connecting in a healthy masculine way.
Quiet quitting is because companies are mismanaging us and are actually breaking down our internal motivation. I didn't quiet quit, I was just driven to my limit and I struggled to squeeze out the minimum from myself by the end (we had layoffs this spring because they moved most of our jobs to the Philippines). They insisted on stats, even if the stats lied because people were cheating but the figures couldn't reflect that, and on motivating us with bonuses when I am just not motivated by more money, I wouldn't even log my overtime even in times when they would pay it (my team was salaried). I was motivated by making a difference and being thorough but I kept being told, effectively, to just be faster instead. Now I have a lot of trouble task switching, so becoming faster at the work we were doing wasn't an option for me. Anyhoo, I learned a lot, I'm grateful for that, worked on an amazing team with fantastic people, but I'm also glad it's over because the life has been squeezed out of me to the point I'm still recovering
Hello from France Agnes ( a french name actually..,) try to find the true story written by Dan Johnston . In french it s called " more precious than money...or silver... ( Same word in french ) it might encourage you ) ✌️🌷
No. Companies are employing consultants in a race to the bottom. They force customers to jump hoops. I file small claims cases for each time-wasting maneuver, especially overseas call centres with staff who cannot escalate nor understand ' Your inability to escalate this means I will file a legal case in my local jurisdiction'. Thank you for being clear you cannot resolve this.
Same for me. I was happy to get laid off because the work/life balance was awful. I worked 60-75 hr weeks due to attrition and I did the work of 3 people daily. I became my own boss so I won’t have to answer to bad management and corporate bureaucracies.
Correct, recruitment process is broken
I totally feel this. I’m normally super motivated and enthusiastic at and about my work, but I feel I haven’t had a good manager in years. It’s very demotivating. Helping clients is what keeps me going but I feel very despondent about other things at work.
I haven’t even reached the end of this conversation and I’m already eager to invite a few friends to watch it with me. I feel like Steven is the teacher of my wakeup club
Yes please more male energy...testosterone please...girls have girl friends for girly things....we need men to be real men and stand up for what is right and speak up and hold their ground for what is right
I can totally get he still thinks negatively of himself. Growing up without a dad present. Losing your mother early. The love we recieve from parents and family throughout our youth is something we carry with is our whole life. It sounds like he has had a lonely, hard life and he just made the most of it. I can relate!
Yes Francis, I think the same. I'm enjoying the conversation but I have to keep pausing because his vibe is weighty and sad, and that makes me want to click away, but curiosity keeps me pausing to read a few comments, back to listen to some more (whilst trying not to glance at the screen: his kyphosis makes me sad).
What a great episode! I especially appreciated the lessons learned and how kindness is so underrated in our "progress-driven" world.
Yes, Yes, and Yes!!!!
I’m so happy and glad that I’ve found this channel. The information, wisdom and knowledge from experts here are priceless. You guys are doing an amazing job with these interviews. Keep up the great work!
Wise and honest, great!
Kind Records Form Munich.
wow, amazing content.
"There is nothing wrong with asking someone for a coffee. It is not a problem to show interest." So simple but still so powerful. For most, this first step may be the hardest, the fear of rejection is real. Awesome episode.
@Lidia Rona It may not necessarily be "about them" but it's just not there. When I think of the men who have shown interest in me -as much as I wanted to be interested in them romantically-but the feelings weren't there/didn't develop, I know it's not an intentional rejection. It's not something one controls. The only thing you can control is giving it a fair chance. After that, it is what it is. That's what I think about when I've been rejected romantically. It seems to take the edge off.
I get rejected 99% rate. I got only one date in 5 years by approach women in coffee shop, mall, work etc. I am almost 30, and finding women shouldn’t be my main focus. It’s side quest. Making money, following my dreams, improving mental, physical, and spiritual/religious state are more important.
Some men need to understand and this is the Older ones...If you invite me for Coffee and I do not know you even if you live in the same building as me...have the Good Manners to Open Your Wallet...and Buy me one in a Cafe...I am NOT coming into your Apartment ! Understand ?
@Jennie Russell Fragile? Peoples' jobs, schooling, and LIVES have been derailed and their reputations have been irreparably damaged because of having asked out the wrong person. They run to H.R. or to the school official and it's game over for the individual who "asked someone out for coffee" or the equivalent. Obviously this is an extreme scenario and hyperbolic, but it's actually happening. It's not unheard of now. Go look into it.
@William Nunn I agree on your view of life . the whole point of evolution is for us to « evolve». Darwinism is not a trip to McDonald’s 😂.
The people who can’t cope with life « as it is», simply become depressed, insane and so on. Falling deeper and deeper into narcissism and fantasy. The fantasy of the world oweing them something. When the hard facts is that evolution simply don’t care
We need to factor into the equation if someone is a natural introvert, extrovert or ambivert. I consider myself to be an ambivert (combo of both introvert and extrovert). I find solace and peace staying away from the majority of people. I tend to feel drained by the emotions and mental illnesses that are out there, including in the work setting. I have felt more loneliness trying to fit into a superficial party atmosphere, than being at home watching a though-provoking documentary, fascinating book or working on a creative pursuit or hobby. It's not that I don't appreciate people, but it depends on who those people are and the energy that they bring. Are they stubborn, defensive or angry? Are they extremely boring personalities? I tend to enjoy the company of those who think outside-the-box, have common sense, a great sense of humor and are humble enough to learn new information without allowing cognitive dissonance to interfere. Being a great listener has almost become a rare quality, so I encourage people to learn that skill. Don't just hear the words, actually listen and try to understand where another person is coming from. I think getting outside of our heads and considering others is important too. There is a fine line in relationships because one person might deem you as aloof, while another might consider that person to be introspective and yet another might think that person is rude. That can be draining and not always enjoyable to be around. We can't please everyone, but I think just being comfortable within yourself and being your own best friend is a way to show love and respect to yourself. With that, you can love and respect others more easily, which will help cultivate relationships and hopefully they can flourish with both staying in the same boat together and knowing that despite the boat having different locations upon it, you are still floating along together. I am particular with the company I keep and try to have strong boundaries with those who are toxic. When you start to weed out those who are not true friends, you will put more energy and value in those who really are.
'Grit' is somewhat less important than the conditions. As Scott acknowledges right at the start he 'hit the lottery', because he appeared in a time when normal social spending towards the public purpose delivered schooling and a level of security many people don't even know now. People do need to be productive, but it isn't some solution to a economies run on bad policy (Monetarism for us for the last 40-odd years). It's a matter of most people just not being able to achieve any level of success or security, no matter how you measure that. Can't rely on the individual for this, we know that. It's been the ideology since the late 70s, it doesn't work.
For me the best episode yet. Hadn't heard of Scott before but boy is he on the money. Nice work guys!
Totally agree
WOW I really resonate with your story Prof G. I'm 44 and made it and lost it twice. Going for round 3 in my 'happier' years. I also lost my dad at 33 and my mom at 41.Thank you for this talk.
Covid did it for my business the last time out of five
I think old people are the happiest age cohort, despite waning health, because their job life is finally over, and all that terrible stress that drives us younger ones in the workforce absolutety nuts every day, is gone. The low stress level lets them find joy in the mundane.
very inspirational, and I love Scott’s views on his experiences and the importance of community and being who you are based on the lessons that you learn. And I give kudos to the CEO of this podcast.
I love how the host allows the guest to speak without interrupting him. Great job! I'll check out more of your channel.
I LIKE this guy. He's pragmatic to the core... Socially and Emotionally Intelligent. Great interview 👍
I’m over 40 and I listened to this with my 16 year old son this morning. We both really enjoyed this conversation. Thank you 🙏🏾
over 40?? lol
This video is all about how to become the asho**
No pressure, I'm sure, heh.
@hiteck007 I've never heard of him before today and know nothing of what he did to anyone. I don't need to know. There are enough meanies I can find on my own.
@Brian Frederick he admitted he was a Vicious piece of work as a boss to his people working for him & I can see it in his face he still has the mean streak even though he regrets his behavior. He still has a lot of self work to do I think.
"If you're watching a lot of advertising, it means your life hasn't worked out... Advertising is a tax on the poor and the technologically illiterate." Ad starts in 5, 4... 😅 Love this episode 👍
I don’t see ads. But I pay to not see them - I felt it was worth my sanity to not be exposed to BS advertising designed to make me feel bad about myself and spend money on products I can do without.
"To Be Wealthy In America, Is To Be Loved."
--Scott Galloway
However you feel about it, it's better to have than lack. How can you think being economically viable is a bad idea? We all have to contributed somehow
Because money is God in America, no matter what people say. Capitalism is the be all and end all here.
Also narcissistic
That's a sickness
It's sad and a crazy hypocritical thought.
I think the dillusion of people who go to college and don't have a plan very early on in either law, medical or science based careers are destined to struggle because the boomers really had options. Now nobody has those same options. Trades and technical schools are not talked about enough. Most people aren't willing to do the hard work.
What really irks me about these conversations about 'lonely' men is that forgiveness and acceptance of them are treated as foregone conclusions. A lot of damage has been done. A lot. People have been unalived (rolls eyes at not being able to say things plainly) by these men. People have been threatened by these men. Yet based on lectures by Peterson, Galloway, whoever (same message just packaged differently), we're all supposed to move on and just accept these men's rage as a rite of passage. Such BS. Women with sense should steer clear and 'feminist' Galloway should understand why.
I live in the South, and I see a lot of rage, but none of it against the usual straw men of the Left. It's against the Leftists themselves, and is shared by whites, blacks, Latinos, anyone who understands history and works a real job for a living.
My church, started by a Mississippi sharecropper's son - yes, such things exist - is in the last town in the South to eliminate segregation, yet slightly more than half the congregation is black, as the new pastor. We, unlike the Left, can learn, and have. You'd think that the 125 million corpses left in their wake would be enough to teach them. Slow learners, I guess....
The best way to think about rejection that helped me is… if you and a girl don’t get along, it’s just a misalignment of beliefs and values, not necessarily rejection. Just put yourself out there and if you’re worth something and feel good about yourself, someone will not reject you. At a certain point it’s a numbers game.
Rejection stinks when it only matters to you.
@di3486 It seems that belief system isn't really working for you. Perhaps you should question it....
@Theresa McGallicher that energy thing is just woowoo nonsense, sorry.
@Di :3 That is true. Acceptance is the beginning of wisdom. But when one has surrendered to the notion that we don't control everything, it makes space for things to come to us that were blocked previously by our energy. So, nothing is impossible.
@Theresa McGallicher There are things that we cannot control no matter how hard you want something, you may not get it.
I lived in the US for a few years and dam right life’s great with money there but there’s no real net to catch you if you sick or lose you job enjoyed being there but prefer how we do things here even though it’s far from perfect
Maybe it's where I am mentally but, to me, this interview was so on point, informative, inspirational, and so many other positive words. Thanks for sharing!
“you have to sweat mor than you see other people swear” personal trainers be like 😮
The segment about the most important decision you'll ever make is 100% spot on. Your choice of partner is more important than your choice of school or career.
😂😂 the choice was made long ago I will be single for life and happy about it.
@Dredd Mann that's why i'm alone i guess ha ha ha!
@Snake Griffin You actually called her husband a plow donkey? Do you have any inkling of what it takes to be home raising 9 children? Are you insane? The husband was probably glad to go to work and get some peace and quiet.
@Bogus Mogus I guess it's all in how you look at it. If you think being alone sucks, then I guess for someone to be alone with you it must really suck.
Career SIMPS take note.
Great Podcast, you got my follow! Scott Golloway talking makes me feel sane. I’m a father of a one year old and three year old, I have actively incorporated some of his wisdom of being present and engaged into parenting and being a husband. Everyone in the house is happier for it!
His honesty at the start is unparalleled ! Thank you for this interview. Nice channel & studio setup.
Being Irrationally passionate about personal well being sounds like something I need in my life, thanks for this interview.
I stumbled across this podcast via some hip hop channel that led me to Dame Dash episode. Since then, I have spent EVERY free minute I have watching episode after episode. And this one IS TOP NOTCH! The breadth of his knowledge and his ability to articulate his thought is Astounding!! And GREAT questions posed to him! What a stellar podcast and excellent excellent episode! Thank you!!
JoDean, are you in the party of educated women?
I had never heard of this guy or you, either. I stumbled upon this based on other videos I had taken an interest in. This is pure gold. Meant to be watched over and over again.
Agreed I feel like I need to watch this every week to maintain its impact.
Wow, this was a fantastic talk. It really hit the mark on many aspects of current social issues. Subscribed!!!
I can't trace back how I found this conversation but it was so good, I'm relistening to it. As a 32 year old guy, this was all really fascinating and helpful to hear. Great stuff!!
A very insightful conversation. Thanks, Prof G!
Speaking as someone in his late 50s in the midst of a career that has helped sustain me for the past 31 years, a lot of what Prof G says resonated very strongly with me. I think that one from the time that he/she is a preteen (between 10 and 12), should have some solid ideas as to what one wants to do with one's life. For instance, when I was 12, I wanted to be an aeronautical engineer because of my deep love and interest in aviation. But I had a reckoning with reality a couple of years later during a 'Career Day' in junior high school. A gentleman had brought with him what looked like a small, adding machine, asking each of us students what professions each of us was interested in taking up as a career. I told him of my desire to be an aeronautical engineer. He fed in my info to the machine and reams of paper shot out. WHOOSH!!! When I saw the amount of science and math courses on those sheets that I would need to be an aeronautical engineer, I felt overwhelmed. While I was good in science, math was a subject with which I had always struggled. I developed second thoughts and abandoned the desire to pursue aeronautical engineering. It would be another couple of years before I --- after some soul searching -- decided to pursue a career in Economics. By that time, with some tutorial help, I had gained a better feel for mathematics and went on to earn straight As in the subject during my last 3 years of high school. I later earned an Economics degree, studied in grad school (on a fellowship) for a year and then applied for the Peace Corps. I had always had a desire to travel overseas and help those who may not have had the opportunities (and luck) that I had. Thankfully, I got accepted into the Peace Corps and worked overseas as a teacher for 2 years. And I never looked back.
As I said, it helps to develop some sort of blueprint as to what you want to do with your life - both professional and personal. Learn also to take pleasure in everyday life. For instance, the sky and clouds, the rustling of autumn leaves as you walk in your neighborhood, the feel of the wind on your face as you go about your day-to-day stuff. Savor those friendships that sustain you. Don't take any of them for granted - EVER. Pursue your hobbies. If you're interested in studying a foreign language, writing a novel, taking a cooking course, and/or doing yoga, DO IT. Plus, be able to laugh at yourself. I cannot emphasize that enough! I say these things from experience. Sure, there are moments when I get depressed. When that happens, I ride it out and when it has passed, I get myself together and resolve to keep moving forward. Having an optimistic outlook is the key.
Remember: YOU HAVE A PURPOSE IN LIFE. YOU ARE UNIQUE. Each of us are here as a result of random chance. Always remember that. Strive to be positive, constructive, and the best you you are capable of becoming, among family, friends, and people in general. While doing so, you'll draw to yourself people --- men and women -- who will enrich your life in ways you can scarcely imagine.
It is so weird seeming to be one of the few males under 30, married for 5 years, with a kid and not dying financially. I moved to where I needed to, to make enough money for my family. It may be a frozen hell, but I can provide for my family. I think if I hadn’t met my wife in Highschool and married in my early 20s I could have been one of those disaffected young men, I almost did anyway. But having responsibilities and stepping up to the task is what saved me from myself.
Welcome to my Tedx talk 😅
Exactly. It's all about choices, and men who can't get a date need to look inside rather than blame everything but themselves. Be Kind.
@tailgunner2 Then you’re making the right decision. If your work requires you to be there late all the time that isn’t fair to a family. Your wife and kids need you to be around.
@Lawnmower Man Bullshit. That's only in the U.S. because this country has programmed men to think that way. Marriage, kids, 9-5 job, picket fence, keeping up with the Joneses, etc. No thank you. I don't want to be cookie cutter like everyone else. I'd rather be single and free and climbing a mountain in New Zealand or someplace. Seriously. The American way of life sucks. That's why so many people in America are miserable and on Prozac.
In my 30s, married for almost 10 years, have 2 children and am extremely happy. Even if I wasn’t financially stable, I’d still be happy. Because being married to a good woman and raising a family is literally the only thing worth doing. Everything else is really superficial in comparison.
I'm from the Midwest but living in FL right now, my bf and I are thinking about moving up north since his job is remote and cost of living is lower. I also work right now and have an advanced degree, but would happily move to part time work or stay at home to manage the home if we have kids, as long as our situation allows it. He had low confidence in himself before, but I showed him a site that calculates how common men are by age, height (not that I care but a lot of women do), and income, (and a box you can check for "not obese") and he's in the top 4% of men nationally. He had no idea he was this valuable already, and his career is really just starting. I think a lot of women have unrealistic expectations of men these days.
This entire talk was amazing! Scott is so clear! Great interviewing too!
Interesting, because 0-25 were my saddest years ☹️ I believe 30-40 are going to be some of my happiest years 🙂 because I'm prioritizing it.
I feel the same way
U not alone! I been on the same road.
Such an insightful interview and I deeply appreciate you introducing me to this gentleman's books. His professional knowledge and jewels of no nonsense wisdom should be taught everywhere
I was born with gene gave me poor health. If I had what my brother had I could have done great things. At least I learned the gene was bad thus didn't procreate. Exercise is required !
Have to watch this over and over again!
Guy is smart and has a lot of good points, but he falls on his face when he starts talking about politics generalizing “conservatives” and mischaracterizing people like Andrew tate and centrist/right leaning “uneducated” “masculine” men. He immediately devolved into the “progressive” platitudes. Mildly disappointing
Thanks for introducing me to Scott Galloway! Very honest discussion & thoughtful perceptiveness about life. Wish we had a lot more of this type of conversation, deep thought and precious humility going on in society, as a cultural norm not a rarity. We’d truly make strides and positive change a reality. The school of life should be an open discussion. It’s what it’s all about.
I just started watching this show. What an amazing conversation 👏🏽
This podcast was so interesting. I’m 45 and recently really struggled with the recognition that financially I am not where I expected to be following a divorce. To hear someone else express that as such a difficult time made me feel a sense of calm and patience
Me too, but as my lawyer said - what price happiness? I am so much happier now, despite having had to pay a large amount to my ex husband and financially supporting our child on my own.
Your own fault for falling for the marriage scam.
44 and just about depleted of assets. There’s nothing to look forward to
@Jason MP Yes, I think it actually does. You don’t to impress anyone or prove anything. Just do the best you can and trust that the pieces will come together. I think they will.
@tom colton acceptance. Where we are at in life, comes more often after 55?
It's nice to listen to someone on the left I can actually relate too. It's so hard to penetrate the echo chamber social media builds around us. I'm not about to swing left after listening to this guest, but if I ran into more voices on the left like this guy I'd probably be a lot more likely to. Thanks for the thoughtful interview.
This interview made my day with its shared wisdom and human warmth. I will recommend it all of my Facebook friends.
A fantastic guest and a great interview. I find him to be deeply insightful, very articulate and to the point, and wide in his ability to capture the many facets of modern life. Thank you!
This channel is a breath of fresh air very intelligent, the host does a good job putting the guests as ease.
Diary of a CEO has got to be my favorite podcast.
I really enjoyed this. I grew up poor (no electricity or plumbing poor). I’ve built a small empire. My success, I believe, was 90% grit. It has been challenging for me to pass on my humble values to my children, but overall, I am very pleased with their integrity, genuine love for others, and their work ethic. Most of all, I am grateful they believe in Jesus.
Most of all... belief in Jesus? Seriously? What an extraordinarily low bar. Most prisons are FULL of people who "believe in Jesus".
I always find it interesting how often people with money talk about Christianity. I’m pretty convinced it’s a cult and you sell your soul to gain money. God=money to Christians in America, I think.
@Beryl Comar not quite. You watch to see if their actions match their words. Not sure how you've managed to navigate life without considering this.
The words are always only words without an accompanying action.
@Paul Bogle so, when someone says “I love you” reply “Thankyou, that’s lovely. What is it that you love about me?”
If they can’t answer that, specifically, then it’s just words.
@Beryl Comar words as in claims. Like someone saying 'I love you'
Clearly words themselves mean things or comment sections would not be worth anyone's time. Nor would much for that matter
3 days ago I discovered this channel. I'm glad did. Incredible interviews!
He didn't laugh out loud for 14 years. That's wild. Really makes me appreciate my own life. It's hard for me to think of a day in the past 10 years I haven't laughed out loud.
@Denise Isaacs you can have it too..
Jesus has the best sense of humor...He made it ask Him ✨🌷✌️
You are blessed to have that 🙏🏽
What makes me laugh out loud: spending time with my kids, having riotous good fun. One of them is 21. So glad he still lives at home with us.
A merry heart doeth good as medecine
Wonderful 😊🌷
I'm 34 and it's in this year I've taken so many small moments in, reading a book with my kids, looking out my window in to the street at whatever is there, cooking dinner for my family and watching them enjoy it.
It's not alway easy to stop and find gratitude in 'just being' but if you manage to do it where you can it really does wonders for your wellbeing.
Your comment resonates so much. I'm a similar age without a wife or kids; I took the ever fashionable themes of society very seriously growing up, as if they were inarguable templates for aspiration. It was a loss of focus, a twenty years-long fever dream. I'm grateful to have refound a connection to being through actively listening to others and participating as a constituent part of society as opposed to the sine qua non (not sure if that's the correct application of the term; I mean to say: believing that I am the only person affected by the world, the only person that matters in this life). I hope the distraction-mongers in society come round to a similar realisation, that our main purpose for being here is to help others. Thanks again for the comment.
@choob 1 daughter 1 son
Do u have any daughters tho
@Kili Marshal Kili - you got to first know your requirements. A lot of guys (not saying you) in West bought the hype and are just floating around trying to not make commitments. There are good quality gals everywhere, no they're not chasing top 5% because they themselves are not too 5%. But they are good quality women who can help you build a stable home from which to focus energies on work. Its just how do you communicate that you value that.
I am 32 i still have no long term partner. Young men are not being sexist they just frustrated that women have advantage. I should have long term female by now they have too much choice easier for them find partner. Lets add feminist wanting to empower not equality with these new feminist say horrible things about males . we can't even play guns at age 5
Thanks for the subject sections!!! And by the way I’ve been saying this for years as I am raised with old norms and values bit really struggle with the new generation in the current society. With friends it’s not a big problem, but with finding a partner (a bit younger) Norman’s and values are way different. Speaking to every day people is way harder, younger people are way more into instant or short term satisfaction (dopamine addiction like sex, money, status, gaming, tiktok, insta, attention) and not working on long term satisfaction (working hard with expecting instant more money, being happy with nothing, a good and long conversation and actually listening). All these youtubers, tiktokkers, instagirls are mostly (not all e.g. informative, educational accounts) a no go for me. The fact that they do it that intensity says something about them (attention, acceptance, confirmation etc). They all talk about multiple streams of income but most of they youngsters do this my mean of crypto, social media or pyramid like constructions, which are either hypes or semi scams (they are dangerous when not knowing the risks). The feedback that I get from many managers in different organizations about youngsters is that they expect loads of money and have so little experience and actually business knowledge they often get rejected or aren’t of the same value and therefore get paid less. The fact that the trend of elder vs younger people is growing too doenst predict something good for the future